Younger first-timer looking for recommendations and advice

[danharding]

Hello - long time lurker, first time poster.

I've never visited a service provider before (not so much as been to a club) so I have no experience with this but I've been thinking about it for a while and I want to.

I've seen many ads and reviews and it looks like there are lots of good options in London. However, many (most?) seem to prefer or require 30+/35+. I'm in my mid-twenties.

I'm looking for a legitimate and dependable service provider who is okay with inexperienced younger guys.

I think I'm looking more for a companion service than massage service, but I'm interested to hear suggestions for both. I'm considering visiting one of the adultea parlours. I saw their "Understanding Body-Rub Parlours" post linked in this thread which seems reasonable. I'm not sure if I might have better luck there considering my age? On the other hand, I've seen many reviews/posts recommending independent service providers over parlours.

I'm also interested in hearing general advice for first timers, but I know there's already a thread or two around here for that.

I've yet to actually message anyone so perhaps I'm making more of it than I need to, but was hoping for some suggestions/advice first.

[yogi1]

As an ?old timer? I respect your straight forward approach.
I would hope that one of the regular SPs would step forward and either offer you more advice or even bend their rule to accommodate you
Enjoy your journey

[Gerald]

First, I'd suggest an advertiser here. They have been reviewed and won't rip you off. A BP girl you know nothing about is a big gamble.
Second, read their ads. Usually, if they have an age restriction it will be posted in the ad. Looking randomly, I don't see age restrictions on every ad.
Third, just be honest with her. They aren't looking for a hot date, they are looking to make money. It's not about you impressing them, it's about them impressing you. The only thing they want from you is respect, appreciation and to listen to their "do's and don'ts".
A 25 year old gentleman has a better time than a 35 year old asshole.
When you see an advertiser here, you can use her as a personal reference to see others from this site. They do talk to each other here.

[yogi1]

Originally Posted by Gerald

First, I'd suggest an advertiser here. They have been reviewed and won't rip you off. A BP girl you know nothing about is a big gamble.
Second, read their ads. Usually, if they have an age restriction it will be posted in the ad. Looking randomly, I don't see age restrictions on every ad.
Third, just be honest with her. They aren't looking for a hot date, they are looking to make money. It's not about you impressing them, it's about them impressing you. The only thing they want from you is respect, appreciation and to listen to their "do's and don'ts".
A 25 year old gentleman has a better time than a 35 year old asshole.
When you see an advertiser here, you can use her as a personal reference to see others from this site. They do talk to each other here.

Great advice from the master!

[Dylan Lane]

Another recommendation is to tell your board name here. Be polite and curtious when texting. I?ve seen younger men only because I thought they were more mature and older then what they are.

Dylan oxo

[danharding]

I'm happy to see so many positive responses in such a short time. This seems to be a friendlier community than most. A bit amusing since I'm sure it would be considered somewhat controversial.

Originally Posted by Gerald

First, I'd suggest an advertiser here. They have been reviewed and won't rip you off. A BP girl you know nothing about is a big gamble.

That's what I was thinking, and it's partly why I'm posting here in particular. Everyone advertising here looks more or less legitimate, whereas with backpage it seems like 90% of the ads are likely to be bait and switches at best.

Originally Posted by Gerald

Second, read their ads. Usually, if they have an age restriction it will be posted in the ad. Looking randomly, I don't see age restrictions on every ad.

That's good to read. I've seen it very frequently and seen some providers who've posted ads both with it and without it. Between that and the fact that the community of hobbyists seems to be overwhelmingly 30+ (inasmuch as I can guess at it at all) I was worried it might be near-universal and just not always mentioned.

Originally Posted by Dylan Lane

Another recommendation is to tell your board name here. Be polite and curtious when texting. I?ve seen younger men only because I thought they were more mature and older then what they are.

I think I can manage that. Don't have much reputation here (just signed up!) but I'm usually good at being polite. Long-winded, maybe, as you may be able to tell.

[intrepid one]

Originally Posted by david12

About face and run. Find some girl friend and have fun

You will never be able to come out of this cesspool. There may be some temporary happiness ..but over all its a road to disaster.

-Friendly advice from 20 yr veteran !

"Cesspool?".....wow, thats a rather harsh indictment of the board, and more to the point, the advertisers that use it..bounce that one off your therapist and heed the advice given..Making a general observation about the motivation and happiness levels of people you don't know very seldom ends well..Assuming everyone else feels the way you do is just sad.

[Gerald]

Originally Posted by david12

About face and run. Find some girl friend and have fun

You will never be able to come out of this cesspool. There may be some temporary happiness ..but over all its a road to disaster.

-Friendly advice from 20 yr veteran !

Well, it looks like Megan Walker decided to join the conversation.

[JeffD]

Originally Posted by Gerald

Well, it looks like Megan Walker decided to join the conversation.

Megan wouldn't have been that nice lol. And the guy isn't totally out to lunch. I wouldn't advise anyone young and inexperienced to get in to this hobby. Unless you can totally check your emotions at the door and have a deep bank account, then this is dangerous for anyone to get into.

But the question wasn't should he, but who should he. So, I would say Sadie would be a good lady for him to break into this with.

[danharding]

Originally Posted by danharding

I'm happy to see so many positive responses in such a short time. This seems to be a friendlier community than most.

The very next response:

Originally Posted by david12

About face and run. ... You will never be able to come out of this cesspool.

Well, we were doing good for a while anyway.

Originally Posted by JeffD

I wouldn't advise anyone young and inexperienced to get in to this hobby. Unless you can totally check your emotions at the door and have a deep bank account, then this is dangerous for anyone to get into. But the question wasn't should he, but who should he.

I was looking for general suggestions as well. "I think this is a bad idea" is okay. I did consider both the emotional and financial aspects of this. Emotionally, I'm not one to get too attached. Financially, I'm doing pretty well and can afford this unless I go crazy about it.

Originally Posted by JeffD

I would say Sadie would be a good lady for him to break into this with.

As per Sadie's info thread she wants a reference from an active service provider first. Not yet possible in my case. Anyway, I've actually already made arrangements with someone.