[Gerald]

I don't recommend using BP (well duh lol)
However, if you must, try to find ads that have been posted numerous times over a long period.
Search names on this board for any mention of the lady you are interested in.
Finally, use common sense and don't ask for anything that can be considered solicitation or reply to an unknown ad that offers something it shouldn't.
If you aren't asking for it, and she's not offering it, you haven't done anything illegal. If everything looks good, ask for a massage to break the ice. There aren't any laws against paying someone to rub your back. If she gets carried away and does more, that's her choice.
You can't be charged for robbing a bank, just because you walk in the door and approach the teller. There has to be verbal confirmation and obvious intent on your part.
If a group of cops are sitting there, smile and say "Good to know there will be donuts with my coffee".
90% of what they do is about fear and intimidation. Make them prove the other 10% and never let them see you sweat.